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Sex and relationship expert, Dr. Trina Read, is ready to answer your questions.

My sex life has definitely hit a rut. What can I do to make it fun?

You have so many options the hard part will be choosing. The trick is you have to: (1) figure out new ideas; (2) be willing to break your sex routine and; (3) not take your sex so seriously.

Let’s look at the average couple’s bedroom sex scene. They have: very little to no talking, no changing up of the old and tired sex routine, certainly no laughing, no toys, no games, no nothing.

Sex and relationship expert, Dr. Trina Read, is ready to answer your questions.

My wife doesn't like it when I masturbate and recently asked me how often I do it. I said daily. She thinks this is too much. Thoughts?

As the old saying goes, about 98% of people masturbate and the rest are just lying.

People vary tremendously in their sexual needs and therefore no amount of masturbating is the wrong amount. That said, for those in a romantic relationship overplay might lead to some complications.

So, how can you tell when enough is enough? Here are some indications:

I’m in my 30s and have trouble feeling confident with my size. I think it may be affecting my marriage. Any help?

Research shows that penis size does not affect a partner’s sexual satisfaction. However, I do appreciate that A LOT of guys wish they had a bigger penis.

The average erect penis size is five to seven inches. If you’re a little smaller, it isn’t a deal breaker. So... instead of focusing on your penis size, you’re better served focusing on her sexual pleasure.

Crash course on women’s sexual anatomy: The clitoris is external and all women can orgasm through clitoral stimulation.

"What we call the beginning is often the end. And to make an end is to make a beginning. The end is where we start from.” T. S. Eliot

Remember the cry "Do-Over?" It was how we got back to center when we played street games as a kid. Something was amiss and either side could call it, and although it didn’t promise any specific outcome, the ability to start again from a place everyone agreed was fair made any outcome reasonable. And while most of us can’t just call a do-over on most of what happens from one day to the next, it’s a worthwhile spirit to cultivate as we begin a new year. Borrowing from our childhood belief of what was always possible offers a novel emotional freedom to approach what we have created thus far and to look at it fairly.

Education is not preparation for life; education is life itself.” ~ John Dewey

Understanding what it means to have a sexually healthy life is a question that most people face throughout their life and relationship cycles—and for good reason. Human sexuality is among the most powerful and mysterious aspects of our personality. Without learning a basic vocabulary to describe what motivates and eliminates our erotic drive, many of us are left to struggle with how we express this part of ourselves and how we communicate both our desires and our fears about who we are erotically.

If someone close to you asked you to describe your ideal sexual experience, what kind of encounter would you describe? How would it begin? What would be involved? Where would it take place? Most importantly, how would it feel?

For some, the answers to these questions may be easy to articulate. For others, not so much. Being able to voice our deepest personal needs and desires is not always an easy thing to do—especially when it comes to sex. Most will agree though, that identifying and expressing exactly what we want (and don’t want) in a sexual relationship with an intimate partner is crucial in establishing a healthy and fulfilling sex life—namely one characterized by consent and equal pleasure.

Date night for many couples is sadly long overdue. Time, money, creativity can all get in the way... and if you’ve got kids, there’s the extra hurdle of finding someone trustworthy to care for them while you whoop it up. We compiled some tips to help you find and hire the perfect person. In fact, we suggest you fill a roster with several sitters.

1. Know Where to Look

It may seem impossible, but finding a reliable sitter is possible. Try these ideas:

Ask family and/or friends to babysit. If you battle with feeling guilty about asking loved ones to babysit (as I do), know that they’ve been in your shoes and totally get it. Half of the battle is allowing yourself to ask because, in most cases, grandma and grandpa would love the extra time with junior; and your friends are always down to help too.