Rendezvous

In almost every couple's relationship, a sexy photo or two will surface at one point or another. Whether it's innocently snapping a self-portrait of yourself giving the camera a sultry look or whipping out the camera mid-coital action, taking sexy pictures is one of the easiest and best ways to add a little heat to your relationship. But unless you're schooled in Porn-Star 101,

Sexting has gotten a bad rap in the media lately for being harmful to teenagers, but what about adults in consenting, long-term relationships like marriage? Sexting, or sending sexually suggestive texts or phone pictures, is a playful way to heat things up in a marriage. In fact, digital foreplay is not only a turn on; it can also improve intimacy.

To help you get more textually active, we asked textperts Debra Goldstein and Olivia Baniuszewicz, authors of the new book

Shopping for sex toys and other sex products isn’t what it used to be—thank God.

Back in the day, if you wanted a good porno or an actual vibrator that wasn’t packaged as a "back massager" you had to travel to the seedy part of town, sneak through the back door of a dimly-lit building marked "XXX Sex Town" in big, accusing letters, and shop behind blacked-out windows that hid the shame of you and all the other embarrassed shoppers within. Once inside, you were most likely greeted by a creepy middle-aged man who looked like he only crawled out of his mom’s basement on the days he had to work and who stared you down behind the counter to make sure you didn’t steal anything.

Thankfully, those days are gone.

The bedroom is the one space that’s uniquely yours as a couple. It should be a safe place to unwind; a relaxing retreat and quiet hideaway for married couples to lie down and feel at home with one another. Yet, for many married couples, this isn’t the case.

"Many couples are going, going, going everyday," says Mary Chatman, romantic decorating specialist and founder of Creations of Love, a decorating service for birthdays, anniversaries and special occasions.

When the economy takes a plunge, our libido often follows. It’s hard to feel aroused when money issues are weighing down your marriage. Whether you’re stressing over how to pay the bills or down right fighting with each other over it, money woes can take a serious toll on a couple’s relationship—especially in the bedroom. It’s no surprise that financial problems are the number-one cause of divorce, followed closely by a dysfunctional sex life.

If money problems are threatening your marriage, take a break from the stock market and invest in your sex life instead. You can diversify your portfolio and save your relationship by increasing your stock in these three marriage institutions:

Cookie.
Twinkie.
Muffin.

This may sound like a list of delicious snack foods, but it’s actually a list of favorite nicknames for another kind of treat: a woman’s vagina.

See? You probably just cringed (or snickered) a little at the word 'vagina', which is exactly why couples adopt nicknames for their partner’s nether regions.

A lot of people whine to me that they don’t have time for sex with their spouse during the busy holiday season. This concerns them because their sex life has already become humdrummingly boring, so not having sex is going to make it even worse.

Couples site lack of time and the constant proximity of family and friends as the culprits for a lack of sex during this most festive time of the year. They couldn’t be more wrong.

The culprit for lack of sex is no different during the holidays than at any other time of the year: lack of imagination. Couples get into a dull sex routine because they lack