The Sexpert

It’s been a year since I’ve had my baby and I never feel like having sex. Am I normal?

Very normal. Quite frankly, why would you feel like having sex? All the changes to your body’s hormones, the sheer exhaustion, and feeling overwhelmed are in no way an aphrodisiac.

That said, the first two years after baby couples often create poor sex habits, which will make for an unhappy sex life many years after… instigating a lot of unnecessary fights. It’s important to make efforts to have sex or at the very least a space for connected intimacy on a regular basis.

Sex and relationship expert, Dr. Trina Read, is ready to answer your questions.

I want to try a vaginal tightening cream, but wanted to make sure they work before buying.

The short answer is "no" they don’t work. It’s just something else in a long list of things to make women feel insecure about their sexuality.

Here’s what vaginal tightening creams do to make you believe they work. Some numb the vagina making it so you don’t become fully aroused. That means you’re less lubricated causing more friction which can make it feel tighter, but also more uncomfortable.

Sex and relationship expert, Dr. Trina Read, is ready to answer your questions.

My husband is a sloppy kisser and I get completely turned off. How can I tell him without hurting his feelings?

During a lifetime, the average human will spend a total of two solid weeks kissing. Hence, never underestimate the power of a good kisser—or bad kisser—and how it impacts your sexual response.

A big reason why long term couples stop the all important "kissing like teenagers" is because of: bad breath; bad kissing technique; or after the initial "honeymoon haze" it seems an overly intimate gesture.

I cheated on my partner and I don’t know whether I should tell?

Deciding whether to tell a spouse about an affair is a highly complex and personal matter. Here are a few things to consider.

Are You in the "Good" or "Right" Camp?

The field of ethics can be divided into two camps: the good and the right. If you are in the "good" camp you may feel it best to not mention your indiscretion believing your relationship would be better off that way. Whereas the "right" camp believes right is right, wrong is wrong, and therefore you must tell your spouse about what you did.

Sex and relationship expert, Dr. Trina Read, is ready to answer your questions, but first, let's start with some stats.

The Kinsey Institute asked more than 6,000 men and women aged 14 to 85 extremely intimate questions about their sex life. Here are a few highlights from the study.

There is enormous variety in the average person’s sexual repertoires with more than 40 combinations of sexual activity.

I caught my husband chatting on Skype with an old girlfriend. He doesn’t think this is cheating but I do. Who is right?

Twenty-five years ago cheating was a black and white issue: you went behind your spouse’s back and had an affair. Today, cheating can look like a lot of things: emotional, via Skype, sexting, social network messengers and more. Because there are so many sub-categories to cheating, it’s important for couples to discuss their relationship boundaries.

Sex and relationship expert, Dr. Trina Read, is ready to answer your questions.

My husband and I have been together for three years and lately he doesn’t want sex at all. Before we were having sex three to four times a week. I’ve tried making the moves but he just rolls over or ignores me.

Many times in life our behaviors say what our mouths cannot. By not speaking, plus cutting the emotional bond, and no physical touch your husband is practically "screaming" that something is wrong.