10 Tips

Some people may think that because I'm a divorce attorney I do not mind when a marriage fails. Nothing could be further from the truth! As I sit across the desk from many heartbroken clients and listen to their reason(s) for the failure of their marriage, my first question to him/her is whether I can help save the marriage. Perhaps counseling is what I recommend or sessions with a trusted other, like a priest, rabbi or minister to explore remedies for salvaging the relationship. I pride myself on having saved some marriages during my 25 years in practice and would very much like to see people work things out, if they can.

It seems like every time we turn on the television or stand in a grocery line we are bombarded with images of movie stars and public figures breaking up or asking for forgiveness for an affair or a variety of miscellaneous offenses. To make light of infidelity would be insensitive, but to watch some of the same public figures doing the same thing over and over again is a tell tale sign of someone who is not sorry for their actions.

On varying levels, we can all relate to the feelings of hurt and betrayal, especially when the person who has caused the pain is our spouse.

You have finally found the love of your life, and with him or her come three children, one dog and a hamster—every other weekend. Your fairy tale may have taken an unexpected turn that includes an instant family, but don't despair. Becoming a stepparent can be a rewarding experience, which often leads to a lifetime of happiness and fulfillment.

Now for a strong dose of reality, the bottom line is that a good "step" relationship doesn't just happen and is rarely successful without thought, preparation and hard work.

Whether you have been married two months or 12 years, sooner or later an "ex" boy/girlfriend or spouse situation is bound to arise. The manner in which you handle yourself will play a vital part in the success and happiness that you currently enjoy with your spouse.

I’ve put together a quick Q & A on how to handle a number of situations that might arise or are sometimes unavoidable if the ex comes into play.