Tag: assume

Keeping a marriage happy and strong is a work in progress for most. It's perfectly normal for couples to hit speed bumps of various sizes, often times in the communication department. Ideally, couples work on a repair then move on, but sometimes not knowing where to begin to pull things together can feel overwhelming. If there has been damage occurring in the marriage for a long period of time, the mountain of resentment may be steep and tall. The first step is to get back to the basics of good communication, whether it’s a blip on your marriage radar or a more serious issue.

“We are more often frightened than hurt; and we suffer more from imagination than reality.” ~ Seneca

We make so many assumptions—those stories that bounce around in our heads about why someone did something or what people are going to do. Someone didn’t say "hi" when you passed one another on the street or you were left off of some work e-mails. Or you assume a potential business partner is going to turn you down. Where does the mind go? For many, the automatic reaction is a negative interpretation of an event: "He’s upset with me." "She doesn’t like me." "I’m not good enough." The fear the negative perception raises is real and painful.