Tag: attracted

Let's get the big question out of the way—it's normal to develop a crush on someone other than your spouse. Unless you decide to live as a monk with absolutely no human contact it’s inevitable you will periodically meet someone who shares an attraction. You may think you’re the worst person in the world, but in truth you’re simply human. Chemistry is uncontrollable and a natural phenomenon.

As my deeply-in-love parents told me growing up, "We’re married, not dead." Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you suddenly stop noticing people. Crushes on bosses, co-workers, cute coffee shop attendees, waitresses, neighbors and anyone else you come into contact with on a regular basis is bound to happen…and that’s okay.

Affairs occur even during good times and within good marriages. Experts estimate that over 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women have affairs. While spouses like to think it could never happen in their marriage, no one is immune. During particularly stressful times—like now—it’s even more likely for spouses to seek affairs. In order to avoid such trauma, it’s helpful to know why men seek affairs during troubling times, and how you can use specific communication methods to avoid such a fate.