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Sex and relationship expert, Dr. Trina Read, is ready to answer your questions.

My sex life has definitely hit a rut. What can I do to make it fun?

You have so many options the hard part will be choosing. The trick is you have to: (1) figure out new ideas; (2) be willing to break your sex routine and; (3) not take your sex so seriously.

Let’s look at the average couple’s bedroom sex scene. They have: very little to no talking, no changing up of the old and tired sex routine, certainly no laughing, no toys, no games, no nothing.

The internet and our local bookstores are filled with information about how we can make our sex lives better. Whether its great advice about restoring the sizzle, tips for improving orgasmic intensity, or information about building sexual intimacy, there’s no shortage of advice about how we can maximize our sex. When we think about it, staying in touch with all of that information can be daunting to say the least. In fact, if we’re not careful, our sex lives can suffer from information over load, which may inadvertently take all the fun out of sex. Who wants an overtly prescriptive sex life, when sex is supposed to be a super stress relieving activity?

Now that the dust has settled on the popular movie Fifty Shades of Grey, the time might be ripe for some honest introspection, in terms of how we perceive some of the issues raised by the film. Why, for example, are we so riveted by the idea of sexual submission?

Although we may each experience sex differently, what remains common, perhaps, is the understanding that a sexual relationship involves at some level the surrendering of personal power. Inherent in our ability to experience sexual pleasure is the reality of lowered barriers and a certain sense of vulnerability, no matter what role we think we may be playing in the sex act.

My husband has been challenging me for the longest time to a game of pool. And anyone who knows me well knows that I am spherically challenged. In other words, I tend not to do well in games that involve balls. But why should I let that stop me? Is it not the spirit of the game that counts and not how well I actually do?

Investigating the role which leisure plays in long-term relationships, Dr. Dennis Orthner, a leading researcher in this field, concludes that in the critical stages of relationship adjustment, shared leisure activities have the power to both stimulate and cement the relationship.

I love dining out at restaurants. There's something about the scents, colors and textures of a carefully prepared plate, which whets my appetite—and, of course, there's the company that just seals the night. I like to think of sex like this; as an entirely diverse sensory experience, which, if handled well, can literally and figuratively whet our appetites for more.

In spite of the potential sizzle that sex represents, all of us who've been married for some time, have experienced hum-drum sex. We've been in the doldrums at one time or another and may have virtually yawned our way through a sexual encounter or two.

Have you ever picked up something and imagined its creative and functional possibilities beyond the obvious?

Lately, I had that moment when I was looking at some trays in a store. Trays have so many possible functions in so many rooms that they really are indispensable. My philosophy is all about rethinking traditional applications in modern ways. With so many style options, a simple tray can find its way into anyone’s life. No matter how much you spend, a well-appointed tray can add style, texture and a bit of sophistication that serves up great décor.

If you’re like me, you know instinctively that the quality of our married sex is critical to the state of our union. Why else do we imbibe so much information about how to keep our sex lives interesting? Having said that, we know all too well that life happens to our relationships and consequently, what we hold dear, namely our sex, invariably becomes affected. And it’s very easy to blame our spouse for our waning interest in the sex department.