Tag: body language

Do you ask your spouse, "Can I Kiss You?" Consent is a subject we often associate with dating, but marriage… not so much. Why is that? Is it because after a certain amount of time passes, we just know when our significant other is "ready?" We are so in tune with their body language that verbal consent is simply not needed? Let’s examine this a little more.

Body language is the most common form of communication in any relationship. For example, do most married people ask before they kiss their love? No. Instead, they try to figure out when is the right time to make their move.

Do you ask your spouse, "Can I kiss you?" Consent is a subject we often associate with dating, but marriage… not so much. Why is that? Is it because after a certain amount of time passes, we "just know" when our significant other is "ready?" We are so in tune with their body language that verbal consent is simply not needed?

Body language is the most common form of communication in any relationship. As mentioned, most married people don't ask before they kiss their love. Instead, they try to figure out when is the right time to make their "move" by reading body language.

Most stress relief techniques are completely useless.

Believe me, I’ve tried them all. I tried yoga, anti-stress software, breathing exercises, aromatherapy and classes before discovering body language. This is a completely new way to approach stress—and I want to teach it to you.

Mastering your body language is the most effective, science-based stress reducing technique—and you already have all the tools you need to use it.

Communication tends to be viewed as a single dimensional line—a message that must be delivered from one person, "the speaker," to another, "the listener." While transmitting a clear message is at the crux of communication, the elements that support such an end are many, with the actual language being only a starting point.

Rather than a straight line, communication is better to be thought of as a decadent chocolate cake: there are many ingredients involved and richest when all are blended well. So, if the verbal message itself is the flour, then the timing of conversation is the baking soda, one’s body language the eggs, and the tone of voice is the butter. Here's how to bake your communication cake.

You stand, hands on hips, elbows out, staring at the floor.

"What’s wrong?" your spouse asks, "What did I do now?"

Surprised, you look up. "Nothing, why?"

"I dunno," he says. "Standing there like that, I figured you were about to yell at me."

You’re confused. What made him think that? Later, you’re trying to talk with your husband about the bills, and he’s staring off somewhere in space.

Verbal and non-verbal language is an essential element for committing in a marriage, friendship, business relationship and virtually all others. We depend on making ourselves understood to convey our wants and needs, likes and dislikes, thoughts and feelings and to make requests of others. These communication skills can be applied inside and outside of the bedroom.

We communicate non-verbally with our faces and our bodies. For example, when we are listening, we might tilt our heads a bit or lean forward toward the speaker. The speaker would likely perceive us to be interested and listening attentively.