Tag: bonding

If your spouse was a victim of childhood or teen sexual abuse, she may be unknowingly bringing some of the aftereffects of her abuse into the marriage bed. It can be confusing and frustrating for both of you, blaming yourselves or each other for a lack of connection and intimacy you can’t explain. However, there are ways in which you can support her in feeling safe and loved so that she can open up to deeper and richer experiences of sexual intimacy.

Forward by Katie Vannier

We want you to feel sexy in your lingerie, to feel strong when moving that couch you just bought together, and to feel connected when you pass out on the floor in a sweaty post workout mess together. We have been on our fitness journey for a couple years now. Working out as a couple has helped us grow stronger both literally and figuratively.

"We do not learn by experience, but by our capacity for experience." ~ The Buddha

I have been warning against the massive shift of our attention to social media for years now. I wasn’t surprised when a bunch of studies recently came out confirming my worst fears-–that social media is not really social and that the more that we do it, the worse we feel about ourselves. But new evidence suggests that the influence social media is inflicting on our youth may just be destroying it. Coined the I-Generation, the statistics are both dangerously overwhelming and unparalleled in any previous generation. Not only are the rates of depression and suicide multiplying, but the actual capacity to be with other human beings, to share space is at its lowest ebb. Maybe this is how the hunger games started.

In the mad rush of jobs, school work, social obligations, and sports teams, quality time as a family seems harder to come by than ever before. If I want more time to just be "mom" and enjoy my kids, I need to put as much planning into it as I do every other area of our lives.

Here are some of my favorite ways to create space to simply enjoy each other and strengthen our bonds as a family unit—and summer is a great time to implement new routines and rituals without the pressure of school and strict schedules.

"More important than the quest for certainty is the quest for clarity." ~ Francois Gautier

While we all want pleasure, most of us don’t understand why our pleasure response gets blocked or even how to ignite it. So here are four steps to turn on your libido, enlarge your experience of sex and trust the intelligence of your heart.

Tweens are emerging teens, but they’re still children. They’ll astonish you with their ability to conceptualize, to argue brilliantly, and then to do foolish things.

The biggest danger for tweens is losing the connection to parents while struggling to find their place and connect in their peer world. The biggest danger for parents is trying to parent through power instead of through relationship, thus eroding their bond and losing their influence on their teen.

“I can’t wait to see you tonight."

"Oh, I can’t get enough of you!"

"I just want to kiss your face and touch your body!"

Have phrases like this gone by the wayside? Do you wonder what happened to your spouse’s interest in sex? Is there an absence of desire and passion? Do you want to fall for your sweetheart all over again? You can make it happen! Even if the well of sexual intimacy has gone all but dry in your marriage, it is truly possible to get things flowing again. Armed with a bucket of insightful tools, you’ll be on your way to restoring sexual intimacy in your marriage—the most important relationship in your life.