Tag: breathe

The pleasure of living and the pleasure of the orgasm are identical. Extreme orgasm anxiety forms the basis of the general fear of life." ~ Wilhelm Reich

Some of my most vivid memories of my early sex life are not of the satisfying post-coitus elated release, but the opposite. It is hard to forget the many years when sex was more a path of frustration than pleasure; when I was still figuring out how my body responded and why it often didn’t. In retrospect, I think it was my strong intention to find pleasure that kept me coming back to try again—of being willing to live inside the questions I had about pleasure even without many answers. And even now, some 30 years later, I often notice that it is this same deliberate attention, the essence of wanting to want, that gives me the courage to keep seeking out my own erotic truth.

So many people look forward to the holiday season. The decorations are beautiful, there’s an abundance of tasty treats at home and at work, and even for a little while people seem to get in the spirit of the holiday season and are kinder to one another.

It’s a great time of year indeed, but not for all. For many, it’s a very stressful time. There are the visits from out of town guests who stay in our homes, all that cooking, buying presents and more.