Tag: cheating

Are you feeling suspicious about your partner’s new "friend?" If you’re like most people, it’s easy to question yourself and worry you’re being paranoid. (Especially if your partner vehemently denies any wrongdoing).

But just like a good detective can lift unseen prints from the scene of a crime, you too have access to subtle clues that might mean trouble. In fact, there is one very distinct sign that may indicate the presence of an affair:  You can feel your partner withdrawing emotionally.

Getting laid by a stranger has never been easier thanks to technology. This is equally true for singles as well as married individuals, thanks to a variety of websites and apps that cater to users looking for easy, casual sex.

Both men and women cheat because something is missing in their lives. The need to fill in that missing piece is what leads to affairs and often divorce.

Today, men and women stray at similar rates according to a study by the University of Indiana, but for different reasons.

Are you feeling suspicious about your partner’s new “friend?” If you’re like most people, it’s easy to question yourself and worry you’re being paranoid. (Especially if your partner vehemently denies any wrongdoing).

However, just as a good detective can lift unseen prints from the scene of a crime, you too have access to subtle clues that might mean trouble. In fact, there is one very distinct sign that may indicate the presence of an affair: You can feel your partner withdrawing emotionally.

I cheated on my partner and I don’t know whether I should tell?

Deciding whether to tell a spouse about an affair is a highly complex and personal matter. Here are a few things to consider.

Are You in the "Good" or "Right" Camp?

The field of ethics can be divided into two camps: the good and the right. If you are in the "good" camp you may feel it best to not mention your indiscretion believing your relationship would be better off that way. Whereas the "right" camp believes right is right, wrong is wrong, and therefore you must tell your spouse about what you did.

I caught my husband chatting on Skype with an old girlfriend. He doesn’t think this is cheating but I do. Who is right?

Twenty-five years ago cheating was a black and white issue: you went behind your spouse’s back and had an affair. Today, cheating can look like a lot of things: emotional, via Skype, sexting, social network messengers and more. Because there are so many sub-categories to cheating, it’s important for couples to discuss their relationship boundaries.

When betrayal strikes, everything seems to change; nothing seems untouched by the effects that create havoc in the relationship and the couple’s world at large. Healing from betrayal is no easy task, for an act of betrayal can cause significant trauma. While the mind reels from fears, worries, and confusion, the heart and spirit are affected by painful emotions such as sadness, anger, resentment, and shame.

Physiologically, the effects of betrayal can manifest in somatic issues such as headaches, exhaustion, sleeplessness, and digestive issues.

"The truth is the only thing worth having, and, in a civilized life, like ours, where so many risks are removed, facing it is almost the only courageous thing left to do." ~ E.V. Lucas

I wonder if someday, hackers will be thought of as modern day Robin Hoods, where the wealth that they are redistributing is the truth. The recent hack of Ashley Madison and Established Men has struck a cultural nerve, not unlike the Wiki leaks or the work of Edward Snowden. Hackers in general appear to be driven by a moral imperative. The Impact Team that claimed responsibility for the Avid Media hack claimed that one of their reasons for targeting ALM is because the company "profits on the pain of others."