Tag: coddling

How well does your child cope with adversity, cope in difficult situations and learn from disappointments? In other words, how resilient is she? We often think our job is to protect our children from tough situations, but in fact, our protection is only protecting us. We don’t want to deal with their anger, sadness, and fear our kids may feel. In many cases, we were not allowed these feelings as children so we don’t know how to manage our children’s feelings. It’s easier if they don’t have them.

As an infant, toddler, child, adolescent, and deep into our adulthood, we progressively leap to higher levels of adaptation to the world around us and our place within it. The family we have and build around us affects nutrition, physical activity, and attachment style. We are embedded within a particular society within a cultural context. All these factors contribute to our "self"-organization. One means by which the "self"-organizes is through the relationship between child and parent.