Tag: crush

Let's get the big question out of the way—it's normal to develop a crush on someone other than your spouse. Unless you decide to live as a monk with absolutely no human contact it’s inevitable you will periodically meet someone who shares an attraction. You may think you’re the worst person in the world, but in truth you’re simply human. Chemistry is uncontrollable and a natural phenomenon.

As my deeply-in-love parents told me growing up, "We’re married, not dead." Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you suddenly stop noticing people. Crushes on bosses, co-workers, cute coffee shop attendees, waitresses, neighbors and anyone else you come into contact with on a regular basis is bound to happen…and that’s okay.

"Fantasy love is much better than reality love. Never doing it is very exciting. The most exciting attractions are between two opposites that never meet." ~Andy Warhol

It all started with a leak under my refrigerator. Then it became clear that the entire wood floor needed replacing. After my contractor arrived it was agreed that that the cabinets would look even worse than they did next to a new floor, so that was going to be my part in the kitchen rehab. Before long, the kitchen was gutted and I am working alongside my contractor sanding and refinishing. What makes guys who can fix things so sexy? Contractors have always been one of my weak points. I can’t help but fall for guys who can turn my ideas into reality so easily. It seems like the power tools are part of their hands.

Being married means having someone you can trust and confide in—even if it’s someone else's darkest secret, right? Just because you're married doesn't mean you can throw away the filter between your brain and your mouth if it can do someone else a great deal of harm. Even in the most open, honest relationships there are some things you should consider keeping to yourself. Here are eight prime examples:

1. "Susie made me promise not to tell but…" The risk here is that your husband may forget the "don't tell anybody" part and mention it next time he sees Susie. Some people automatically exempt spouses from the "don't tell anybody" rule, figuring that it's bound to come up during pillow talk.

We have a passionate affair with teen love in this country. Just look at the summer blockbusters and popular TV shows and you will see countless stories of angst-filled teenage love full of drama and passion. So, what is it about that age and the romance of that time that continues to capture our attention long into adulthood? And what is it about this type of love that you could bring into your own marriage?

Aside from the inevitable drama that is teen love, there is also a hopefulness and an enthusiasm for love and relationships that I think most of us still desire.