Tag: curing your marriage with sex

"Remedial: giving or intended as a remedy or cure; intended to correct or improve something."

I was married for at least 15 years before I finally started seeing our sex life as remedial rather than a reward. Like so many couples, I spent over a decade holding sex apart from our daily conflicts and fruitlessly waiting for the moments when my husband said just the right thing at just the right time to spark my desire. In truth, as we went from two to three to four kids, desire became a faint memory and we weren’t all that skilled at teasing out real conflict from the annoying minutia of daily living. Looking back on it, I actually believe that the intentional leap we made to plan and prioritize weekly remedial sex actually saved our marriage.