Tag: dispute

Communication problems are one of the biggest challenges couples face in a marriage, yet with the right tools they are some of the easiest to fix. Use these five tips to help bridge the gap between you and your spouse and make disagreements on many simple issues a thing of the past.

1. Mindreading: Don’t try to read your spouse’s mind or expect him to read yours. Ask your spouse what he is thinking or tell him directly what you need. You don't get bonus points for guessing right, so don't make things more difficult than they need to be.

You step into your marriage with the hope of foreverness, yet per American Psychological Associations report, 50% of marriages find themselves in a break of that fantasy. Divorce does not happen in one day. It brews slowly. Watch for the following signs that deteriorates your relationship every day toward divorce... and shift to healthier skills before it’s too late.

Have you ever been drawn into a fight with a loved one where by the time you got knee-deep into who’s "right" and who’s "wrong" over the most trivial thing it felt as if, somehow, your very life depended on the outcome of that fight?

We’ve all had moments like this, perhaps too many times; which is why it seems strange that we’ve yet to see the following: there’s no such thing as a "winning" side in any fight between two people who love one another, anymore than one seat proved itself better than another on the deck of the Titanic.

As a peace-loving Libra, I’m always looking for ways to minimize conflict, ways for us to get along better, regardless of our differences. So I was quite taken with a post a friend forwarded to me: "Explain your anger, don’t express it, and you will immediately open the door to solutions instead of arguments," (author unknown). Sounds nifty, doesn’t it?

Defending or Explaining?