Tag: doing

I was recently delighted with a special surprise evening. For our 20-year wedding anniversary, my husband insisted on planning a "Johnny Walker Surprise" that was not revealed to me until we reached the destination. (Yes, my husband's name really is Johnny Walker).

"A surprise? But, I don't like surprises," I replied. I say that, often, yet I have never actually encountered a surprise of his that I didn't like.

Love is both a feeling and an action. As a feeling, it is often mysterious—why you love the woman someone else divorced is a mystery; why you love a sweet goofy guy your best friend would never even consider dating is equally unknowable. But the action of love, the "doing" of love, is not mysterious at all. The miracle is, that as we perform the actions of loving, the feeling of love (which may or may not include "falling in love") blossoms. This is true whether you’re in the first flush of love, or settled into an established couple—the "doing" of love brings about the feeling of love.

What is the "doing" of love?

First, when you set out to love someone you spend time with them, getting to know them as they are