Tag: emotionally courageous

I was having lunch with one of the students from my old positivity club the other day when he surprised me by telling me that what means the most to him now is learning how to feel. I asked him what he meant, and he said, "I used to think my feelings. I thought I was ‘sad’ or ‘angry,’ but it never quite registered in my body. Now, I know I am feeling when it happens in my gut or my chest. When I feel most alive is when I can’t not feel what is happening."

The truth is that we all need to feel more and turning up the dial to register our feelings as the visceral responses they are also turns up our ability to impact our intimate relationships. I have long been warning about the myriad ways in which our lives become dominated by our digital devices consuming not only our attention, but also our capacity and interest in the complex rich world of connecting to others.