Tag: enthusiasm

Remember falling in love with your partner? Wasn’t there something magical in even the most mundane details of his/her life story? You were deeply interested in him (and he in you) and it showed. You cooked elaborate meals for him; he bought you little gifts (just because); you spent hours passionately discussing every topic under the sun (that is, when you weren’t passionately doing other things!). Now you barely notice he’s in the house, your sex life has dwindled to one ho-hum encounter a month, and when he talks, you can feel your eyes glazing over.

Have you ever been to a party where one of the guests comes in with a sour face, and no matter how much fun everybody else is having this person finds fault with whatever is going on, criticizes everything and everybody, and puts a damper on the whole event? Or you're in a perfectly good mood and you start talking with someone who sees nothing but doom and gloom in the world and within minutes you get depressed?

Have you ever been to a party where one of the guests walks in with a sour face, finds fault with everything, which puts a damper on the entire event? Or you are in a perfectly good mood and you start talking with someone who sees nothing but doom and gloom in the world and within minutes you are depressed?

Nobody likes to be around a "party-pooper" and with good reason. But have you ever thought about what you bring to the party? What you bring to your marriage? Do you consistently bring excitement, enthusiasm, caring, wonder and appreciation? Or do you whine a lot, complain, moan and find something wrong with most everything about it and, in particular, your spouse?