Tag: experience

If someone close to you asked you to describe your ideal sexual experience, what kind of encounter would you describe? How would it begin? What would be involved? Where would it take place? Most importantly, how would it feel?

For some, the answers to these questions may be easy to articulate. For others, not so much. Being able to voice our deepest personal needs and desires is not always an easy thing to do—especially when it comes to sex. Most will agree though, that identifying and expressing exactly what we want (and don’t want) in a sexual relationship with an intimate partner is crucial in establishing a healthy and fulfilling sex life—namely one characterized by consent and equal pleasure.

"When a man gives up his freedom to get married, and forsake all others, he reasonably expects to get a ‘little thing’ on a regular basis." ~ Richard Hoad.

The obvious premise of the above quote is that men need "a little thing" or in other words sex, with the underlying implication that women are not always prepared to give it. The problem with this equation is that there is a built-in expectation of exchange. Men are purportedly giving up their "freedom," which means surrendering a "right" to sexual variety, in exchange for regular sex with one woman. Women, however, seldom define marriage in these exact terms. Sure, we know regular sex is involved in a committed relationship, but very often we want more.

Would you like to feel that life is working for you, rather than against you? Does being in "flow state" sound like a mythical state of being or do you go there regularly?

Life right now is complicated and full of opportunities to dive deep into fear and worry. How can we live in a state of flow, trusting that life is offering to us exactly what we need?

Do you have people that drain the life out of you? You know, energy suckers? Believe it or not, they are direct reflections of the limiting beliefs you have about yourself. They are simply mirroring back to you the insecurities which they sense coming from you! Luckily you can change who is drawn to you and how people interact with you by changing the way you think and feel about yourself.

To improve the relationships in your life, you need to improve your self-image first. We all give off energy commonly referred to as "vibes." When you have a low self-image you give off negative vibes, and when you have a high self-perception you give off feel-good vibes.

"We do not learn by experience, but by our capacity for experience." ~The Buddha

Here is one of the great truths of life that many couples are missing in the constant search for something new—is that experience alone, too often, leaves us empty.

Instead, it is our attention, curiosity and opening that we bring to our life experiences that make them the powerful source of transformation that they are. This truth also explains why so many of us live such ridiculously distracted lives that often only detract from our immediate experience, keeping us at arm’s length from the insight and depth that our experience can offer us.

When I was 18, my father tried to get me into the plumber’s union. He was trying to help because I had no direction and no mechanical skills. He reckoned that having a trade would be a good thing for my career and figured I’d learn what I needed to know along the way.

But the plumber’s union wasn’t the first try at getting me to become an adult. My girlfriend’s father had tried getting me into the carpenter’s union, and my father had previously attempted to get me into the electrician’s union.

When you’re in a committed relationship, "all the little things” can take on a larger significance—the good and the bad. For example, little annoyances can seem like a bigger deal (or deal breaker!) when you experience them day in and day out. On the other hand, small sweet gestures like flowers or a handwritten love note can really warm our hearts.