Tag: explaining

When your child is first diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder, your world can be turned upside down. You and your spouse will both learn new ways to cope with emotions, balancing appointments, and more. Siblings of autistic children have an adjusting period as well. There are many questions, feelings, and concerns they will have. Explaining autism to siblings in a positive way is extremely important.

Once you’ve decided to get a divorce, a series of important conversations await. Many people are afraid of telling their parents, siblings, children and friends about their divorce because they have to admit failure. It’s common to want to retreat from that feeling—or even to hide it—but remember that loved ones are typically supportive. On top of everything else in this trying time, you have to admit you made a mistake. You chose the wrong partner. Or you didn’t conduct yourself responsibly. Or you simply grew apart. Once, you and your partner had a plan for your family, and you were sure you had a bright future together. Now, that plan is finished.

Anger is an important emotion. It is an emotion that needs to be taken seriously. Like all emotions anger has an urgent message for us to listen to. The structure of an intimate relationship or a marriage allows many opportunities for anger, resentment, agitation, and frustration to manifest and show up; since it is a structure that you allow yourself to be the most vulnerable and have many set expectations.

As a peace-loving Libra, I’m always looking for ways to minimize conflict, ways for us to get along better, regardless of our differences. So I was quite taken with a post a friend forwarded to me: "Explain your anger, don’t express it, and you will immediately open the door to solutions instead of arguments," (author unknown). Sounds nifty, doesn’t it?

Defending or Explaining?