Tag: feel

“Pleasure is the object, duty and the goal of all rational creatures.” ~ Voltaire

We know what feels good. We innately understand pleasure. As we age we often stifle our ability to embrace the pleasurable sensory parts of ourselves. Here are three ways to tap into your pleasure.

1. Bathe in your senses. Pleasure is entirely dependent on our physical capacity to experience the world through our senses.

Do you remember the last time you felt strong? How about powerful? Fierce? We feel them in our bodies as physical sensations and flood our minds with thoughts that reinforce how we feel. We make meaning of the physical sensations based on our past experience and current environmental context. We can tap this power to overcome obstacles on our fitness journey.

Sometimes I might feel strong following a presentation or asserting my needs successfully in relationship.

"Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams." ~ Ashley Smith

Sensory perception is a use it or lose it capacity; the less you employ your five senses, the smaller your related awareness and language becomes, effectively shrinking the known world.

In ways we often don’t consider, we know our selves most directly by what we perceive through our senses. Yet, many of us just don’t use our senses to explore much

"The planet does not need more successful people. The planet desperately needs more peacemakers, healers, restorers, storytellers and lovers of all kinds." ~ The Dalai Lama

Life needs you to love, to come home to your true loving self. It needs you to be open to all that you don’t know, it needs you to listen with the intent to deeply connect, it needs you to want to feel everything, it needs you to recognize at every moment this might be your last chance to get it right.

Breakdown of communication is the number one cause of the start of relationship problems that I see in my therapy practice. The term, "communication," is used so loosely that most people don’t even know what it means. They know they don’t have it, they want to get it, but they don’t know how to do it.

What is my definition of "good communication?" It is a message that you send verbally to your partner who then receives it, acknowledges what you’ve said, and understands it.

You're five years old. Your mother sends you to your room because you pulled the cat's tail. "It's not fair," you cry out. "Johnny pulled the cat's tail too and he didn't have to go to his room!" Your mother pays no attention to your protestations and off you go, teary and miserable. You curl up in a ball on your bed and feel horrible, sad and sorry for yourself.

You're 15 years old. The principal gives you detention for smoking in the bathroom. "It's not fair," you cry out. "John was smoking too, you just didn't see it and he didn't get detention!" The principal pays no attention to your protestations, and off you go feeling wronged.

There is no time like long summer nights to cultivate our uniquely, profoundly human capacity for pleasure; especially sexual pleasure. Our pleasure response transforms our relationship to each other and even to life itself. Focusing on pleasure not only changes how we see our opportunities for intimate connection, but also invites us into a deeper relationship with our erotic soul.