Tag: feeling sexy

Feeling sexy is so much more than getting your hair and makeup done, or wearing your man’s favorite outfit. It does not mean looking like a porn star nor have anything to do with sex itself. The ability to feel sexy is built on self-confidence, self-love, and being happy in your own skin. If you want to feel sexy for your husband you have to start by feeling sexy for yourself. Trust me, they will notice! Here are my tips for getting that confidence kicked up a notch.

"Experiencing one’s self in a conscious manner–that is, gaining self-knowledge–is an integral part of learning." ~ Karen Stone McCown

People who are emotionally intelligent are seriously sexy. Fluency with one’s emotional life defines our ability to master most other life experiences. Being constantly caught between fight or flight is not flattering, and sadly our sex appeal bears its weight.

Is there a relationship between great sex and great physical beauty? I’ve read, with some amusement, the correlations between attractiveness and life success. It runs the gamut: studies that suggest sexy or beautiful people get better jobs, earn more money, are more popular, or get their own way more often. I’ve been hard-pressed, however, to find a study that will categorically claim that being beautiful or handsome is directly correlated to having a great sex life.

However, what role does beauty play in an ongoing sexual relationship like marriage? Does our physical appearance, or more importantly, the way we feel about our looks or body bear any relationship to the quality of our sex lives?

When you're struggling with feelings of body dysmorphia, it can be hard to think of your body as a source of sexual pleasure.

Your partner is probably still tempted to think of it that way. Even when your sexuality and your ability to express it is deeply important to you, feeling bad about your body or uncomfortable with how you see yourself in the mirror can make it harder to enjoy that sexual expression.