Tag: foundation

“Love and relationship is meant to be more than a safety net, that companion. A pet can provide that. A lover will give you more.”

How can we increase the possibility of developing more within a growing relationship and not just a casual approach to a marriage that leads no where? We visualize this false perception of being a couple after a few dates when our partner has a completely different idea of what dating means.

We all want transparency. Guessing games become filled with unnecessary anxieties about where we fit within the relationship.

It’s easy to feel attracted to someone. But that doesn’t mean the relationship will last.

When the feelings of connection start to diminish, the foundation of the relationship begins to crumble. Without an understanding of why that’s happening, or the right help, things are likely to get worse.

Here are 5 Real Reasons Couples Separate:

"Becoming fully conscious of our perceptions—simply feeling what we feel and knowing what we know—is the very definition of awakening. It creates a virtually indestructible foundation for lasting relationships, successful endeavors, and inner peace." ~ Martha Beck

Our emotional habits can become our emotional prison without even knowing it. They are the blind spot that everyone who knows us sees first about us, but one where we can be forever clueless. Like all habits, what we do all the time, becomes second nature to us, before we even reflect, the habit is taking over, leading us. But emotional habits are even more pervasive and in some ways harder to perceive and change because these habits are highly charged, having developed over years as a protective device to regulate our lives.

As I was going towards divorce in 1986, I found myself contemplating, "What is a marriage in which there is no divorce?"

And I immediately knew—I must marry myself!

I spent that entire year focused on the mission.

The mission to intentionally become the partner to myself that I had been seeking.

The mission that became the foundation for the rest of my life.

Parenting is the most important and rewarding part of life. We have the divine opportunity to teach love, confidence, compassion, discipline and responsibility to another person. We will know what kind of parent we are by how we see our children get along, succeed and interact in the world. When love is the foundation of parenting we raise goal-driven children, rather than entitled children. If we love our children we mentor and discipline them.

Whether it’s problems within our own marriage or problems that we face in our culture, sadly, we consistently don’t face them at all. Instead, we close our eyes, turn our deaf ear, blame others, play the victim and look to be rescued and often choose sides on issues that directly affect us all—which does nothing to solve the problem. Furthermore, even when we choose to address an issue, we often take the shortcut and expect the best.

What we need to focus on here are the words "integrity" and "commitment." And if we look around, we will see a lack of both in many of the things around us.