Tag: honesty

“Love and relationship is meant to be more than a safety net, that companion. A pet can provide that. A lover will give you more.”

How can we increase the possibility of developing more within a growing relationship and not just a casual approach to a marriage that leads no where? We visualize this false perception of being a couple after a few dates when our partner has a completely different idea of what dating means.

We all want transparency. Guessing games become filled with unnecessary anxieties about where we fit within the relationship.

Your marriage is sacred. It's something you will spend the rest of your lives working on to ensure that it is strong, healthy, and lasts the rest of your life. So why not start protecting it now by setting healthy boundaries to help strengthen your marriage?

When you think of the word "boundaries" you may feel like you are putting restrictions on you and your spouse, but there is nothing negative about setting some guidelines for your relationship if their goal is to make your marriage stronger. These are five healthy boundaries to provide the framework for a healthy marriage.

German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche once said, "It's not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages." No doubt Neitzsche would be mortified to watch modern-day rom-coms where relationships between unlikely partners survive on the idea that "love will keep us together."

Love is important, yes. But love is no magic serum that turns everything to rainbows and sunshine. The real workings of great relationships are far more down-to-earth. They're built on respect and courtesy. If you're short on those things in your marriage, use the eight tips below to get back on track.

What does your man want that you’re not giving him? Or is it just his issue?

If you really want to solve this problem, you have to understand your role in why he’s distant. But that’s going to take some self-honesty. Are you ready?

To get him to talk to you like he used to, we need to shine the spotlight on you:

* What is it about you that he loved so much that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with you?

"The truth is the only thing worth having, and, in a civilized life, like ours, where so many risks are removed, facing it is almost the only courageous thing left to do." ~ E.V. Lucas

I wonder if someday, hackers will be thought of as modern day Robin Hoods, where the wealth that they are redistributing is the truth. The recent hack of Ashley Madison and Established Men has struck a cultural nerve, not unlike the Wiki leaks or the work of Edward Snowden. Hackers in general appear to be driven by a moral imperative. The Impact Team that claimed responsibility for the Avid Media hack claimed that one of their reasons for targeting ALM is because the company "profits on the pain of others."

One of you has had an affair. Or you know someone in the throes of uncovering one or is dealing with the confusion of the aftermath. What do we really know now about what drives affairs and what is needed to repair? What do we now know about affair-proofing your marriage? This may be surprising—what do we know about how your marriage can actually get better post-affair? Read the fine print: if you take certain clear steps.

With so many problems in marriages these days, how do you build and keep trust? Everyone talks about the importance of trust in relationships, but what does that really mean? If you don’t trust partner, for instance, you’re more likely to be frustrated, anxious, depressed, angry, sad, preoccupied, tense… and the list goes on and on. But, if you trust your partner, there’s mutual respect, more security, and more openness to love, communication, and intimacy. Simply put, lack of trust is very damaging to the marriage.

Here are six ways to build trust and ensure a healthy and loving marriage: