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If you want to build a lasting friendship, you must be a friend to yourself first. Many people are convinced they cannot have a friendship because of the way they think… literally. They are hampered by a negative mindset that they can’t believe in themselves or their ability to create and maintain a lasting relationship. It's time to shake away the self-doubt and embrace your burning truth.

What I refer to as a "friendship on fire" is about getting into your flow and being real.

Imagine what life might look like if we all had a good, solid dose of sex education. Imagine shame and guilt—the two constant companions of countless sex drives—replaced with curiosity and wonder. Pleasure of all kinds would become a welcome respite and our capacity to combine long lasting relationships with our own personal language of intimacy would thrive.

I daresay, if our kids believed we wanted them to have healthy and vital intimate lives, they would be getting a better education of what healthy sex looks like just from growing up at home. Imagine if great sex was celebrated as part of the journey of growing up over a lifetime. Maybe porn would even get boring, and clandestine affairs would seem not worth the price. A little sex education could go a long way to revolutionizing how we live and love.

Most of what matters and gets better in life happens through education. Yet remarkably, when it comes to sex, many people were not only deprived sexual education in their youth, but have carried the "ignorance is bliss" approach way too long into adulthood. In fact, when it comes to cultivating and sustaining an erotic life, persisting in not knowing may well be the kiss of death.