Tag: lubrication

Have you ever started a new birth control, and then noticed that things started feeling a little…off? Turns out, you aren’t the only one! More women are noticing vaginal dryness as a result of their birth control regimen. Don’t worry though, there are plenty of things you can do to start feeling better.

How is vaginal dryness is linked to birth control?

Although vaginal dryness is most commonly associated with menopausal women (like the two-thirds of women over 60 who list dryness as one of their top sexual health problems!), it can actually happen to women of all ages. Typical symptoms of dryness are discomfort, itching or burning, and pain during sex.

The arousal response is your body’s natural mechanism for accessing pleasure. Although often confused with the genital swelling that accompanies our arousal response, the ignition for our arousal lives in the sexiest organ of our body: Our Brain.

Specifically, in the limbic area of the brain, which also processes memory and emotion and is conveniently co-located with our olfactory bulb, which explains why our sense of smell invigorates our emotional process, our access to memories, as well as our feeling of being turned on. Truly, your orgasmic potential begins with your ability to cultivate your arousal mechanism. Interesting studies have demonstrated that working with your physical arousal response can actually instigate sexual desire, rather than the reverse of waiting for desire to jumpstart arousal. This is heartening news because tapping into and enlarging our capacity for arousal is no different than developing any other physical response. Here are four helpful tips to get acquainted with and befriend your arousal mechanism.

I feel so self-conscious about being ‘loose’ during intercourse. What can I do?

Kegels, Kegels and more Kegels.

Every muscle group in your body needs to be exercised in order to maintain tone and strength. This includes your vagina muscles, known as your pubococcygeal (PC) muscle group. If not exercised, your PC muscle will eventually become slack and atrophy, causing a lack of sensation around your vaginal opening.

"Virtually all hyperosmolar lubricants need to be reformulated… Normally the mucosal lining of the vagina is a good barrier to infection all by itself, but when that barrier gets compromised, all bets are off."  ~ Richard Cone, biophysicist Johns Hopkins

Personal lubricants may be the last frontier of health care products to experience it, but there is a revolution afoot and there are many brands of organic and all-natural products that are entering the market to replace the dangerously toxic effects of bad chemistry.

"Sex is always about emotions. Good sex is about free emotions; bad sex is about blocked emotions." ~Deepak Chopra

My 15-year-old daughter told me that a friend was planning to try to get his first kiss when the fireworks went off over a fourth of July celebration. Talk about a romantic beginning. But even more than a romantic beginning is mastering the tools to keep intimacy vibrant long after the fireworks fade away. In light of that, I offer these five foolproof tips to get a spark to ignite and enjoy reliable, continuously improving pleasure with your heart’s desire.

I used to get very wet, which is a huge turn on for my spouse, but recently I've slowed down "down there." I feel his touch, but I can’t get wet. What do you think the problem is? And what can I do to get the juices flowing again? Thanks for the help.

Thanks for the important question about female lubrication. So why do women experience a lessening of lubrication? The question is how wet is wet enough? Well, it could be from one of several reasons that we can discuss.

A lot of people do not know how to have sex. On the one side, we are inundated by an exhibitionist; anything goes sexuality in our pornographic-laden culture. On the other side, there is nothing, an empty and lonely place where most of us live with our questions about sexuality and wondering what is normative. Even most "Better Sex" videos are so graphic that integrating the images into practice is a far reach. I sell products which I assure will provide the tools for a longer and more satisfying sex life, but the longer I do it, the more I recognize that even the best lube in the world is not going to work if you don’t know how to use it. So here’s a little guide to the steps of making a spark turn into flame in your bedroom. Desire does not always precede arousal. Often times if you give yourself a chance to explore the purely physical sensations of scent and touch, the body itself will open up by itself to desire. Many a night, we have a pre-set agreement for an intimate rendezvous and I arrive exhausted with no desire in sight. This is where love oil comes in.