Tag: male

We live in confusing times for men.

There is no doubt that men have a history of domineering, and sometimes even misogyny. For all the merits of true masculine energy, at times it became toxic and caused harm.

But in our enthusiasm to rid the world of toxic masculinity, it seems that all masculinity has come under attack. Men today receive the overwhelming message to not identify with their masculine nature. To not assert themselves firmly lest it cross the line into domineering like it did for so many thousands of years.

With all the hype surrounding sex and sexual relationships, there can be a tremendous feeling of pressure, especially for men. Men, in fact, appear to experience sexual performance-anxiety in far greater proportions than women. In spite of society's seeming openness to sexuality and women's sexual freedom, there is still a very traditional perspective that it's a man's duty and responsibility to always rock the sexual boat. In other words, men must have the equipment, skills and stamina to throw it down in the bedroom and when they don't, they are viewed as sexual and relationship failures.

A surprising source of simmering female resentment is the myths generated about men. These fictional stories have the power to stress a marriage by triggering habitual ways of listening and responding because you already know character and plot. However, once women become aware of the myths they have been fed, they realize that men are complex and multi-dimensional and worth exploring. Consider this analogy: We like to travel to exotic places, enthralled by the type of people we ignore at home. Therefore try seeing your home like a first-time visitor, and that includes "him."

By the time we spend countless hours at work, along with exercise and sports activities with opposite sex colleagues, we often end up associating with our "friends" more than we interact with our spouse. Not to mention, how easily technology and social media have created new platforms for friendships with the opposite sex—yet, again, not with our own spouse.

As society becomes increasingly more integrated among gender lines, the age-old question remains: "Can men and women really just be friends?"

Our first article focused on communication because there is no solving any issue without finding ways to open up and talk about it. In this second installment, we are going to discuss sharing one another’s concerns with your doctor and seeking help.

As we work through this issue together, please bear in mind that we are not physicians and that post prostate surgery sexuality is not our specialty. However, the research we have conducted over the years has proved useful for many couples and, in sharing that with you, we feel you will be better equipped to take up this issue with your prostate specialist.

You tend to give more to others than you ask from them. You find yourself holding your tongue, avoiding conflict and accommodating the needs of others. You hesitate to take care of your own health, take space for yourself, or take a day off. You find yourself feeling misunderstood, run down, disengaged from the very people you serve and love.

Women already know they need to cut back on coffee during pregnancy, if not sooner, to lower the risk of miscarriages; but a new study suggests the men in their lives need to limit caffeine too.

Pregnant women who had more than two caffeinated drinks a day while trying to conceive had a 74 percent higher risk of miscarriage than their peers who drank less coffee, tea, soda and energy drinks, the study found.