Tag: married sex

Sex and relationship expert, Dr. Trina Read, is ready to answer your questions.

My husband is a sloppy kisser and I get completely turned off. How can I tell him without hurting his feelings?

During a lifetime, the average human will spend a total of two solid weeks kissing. Hence, never underestimate the power of a good kisser—or bad kisser—and how it impacts your sexual response.

A big reason why long term couples stop the all important "kissing like teenagers" is because of: bad breath; bad kissing technique; or after the initial "honeymoon haze" it seems an overly intimate gesture.

Having a candid conversation about sex can be difficult. Even if you and your partner are completely open with each other, sex can be the one subject where you don’t communicate. You may be afraid to hurt your partner’s feelings or cause them embarrassment. You may be unsure of what you actually want or feel embarrassed yourself. Whatever the case, being open about sex is tough. How about you discover exactly what you both want without having that awkward conversation over brunch.

Are you in a marriage? If so, are you pleased with the frequency of intimacy? If your desired goal is to be more sexually active with your spouse, you will want to share this with your partner. It can begin simply as a game to get you started. Don’t under estimate the power of having a sex life you are happy with at any age. It can be a time to get to know your body in new ways—and a great goal to accomplish this is to have sex on a daily basis.

"Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror… Just keep going. No feeling is final." ~ Rainier Maria Rilke

We can’t choose which feelings we want to experience. What most people don’t realize in their selective attention to their feelings is that as we block our ability to feel any particular emotion, it actually impacts all of our emotional capacity—not just the things we are trying to avoid. This is the conundrum that chokes most people’s sexual drive because libido and emotion are so closely tied, and not only in our brain’s processing mechanism.

Sex and relationship expert, Dr. Trina Read, is ready to answer your questions.

Sex with my husband is so boring that I don’t care if I ever have sex again. Any suggestions?

The simplest solution would be to do something different and if you’re not sure where to start here are five easy ideas.

1. Start with fantasy. Each day give yourself a few minutes to fantasize about a sexy experience you might want to try. Stimulating your mind through active recall will activate your sexual desire.

We’ve had a few Love Tripper’s send us e-mails to ask how to approach their partner about pushing their relationships sexual boundaries. Questions like, "How do I get my wife to try anal sex?" or "My partner isn’t comfortable with trying bondage stuff. What should I do?"

Pushing your relationships sexual boundaries can be a delicate subject, especially if one partner is a little more on the conservative side. We’re pretty open-minded and adventurous, but we still approach certain acts apprehensively.

My single girlfriends are envious that I’m married, while I think they have better sex. Who is more sexually satisfied: married or single women?

This is definitely a "the grass is greener on the other side of the fence" predicament.

Although there’s pros to both married and single sex, if we look at this from a satisfaction point of view married woman sex wins out.