Tag: men

Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot. Nothing is going to get better. It’s not. ~ Dr. Seuss

You already know that men and women often see things very differently. There are some real differences between the roles that men and women have in sustaining couple communication, trust and intimacy.

This isn’t something that most men will ever figure out. They need to be taught. You might even show him this article.

In case you hadn’t noticed, men have a pretty lackadaisical attitude toward their health—an attitude that contributes to the fact that roughly one in four men in the United states will die of heart disease, and a between 70 percent and 89 percent of all sudden cardiac events occur in men! And the situation is getting worse, with women outliving men by about five years.

Sounds pretty grim, doesn’t it? Well, it doesn’t have to be. The reality is that half of all premature deaths are preventable—but to accomplish that, men will have to make some pretty serious changes in the way they run their lives. Unfortunately, far too many men aren’t terribly interested in modifying their behavior.

Healthy mom, healthy baby. Few would argue that a mother-to-be has the starring role in how a baby develops during pregnancy. However, recent research shows that in biological terms fathers shape their children’s development more than previously thought. Components of the male sperm have been linked with numerous pregnancy outcomes, from an increased risk of miscarriage to a predisposition for obesity in offspring.

At the moment of conception, the genetic contributions of the female and male are equal. However, research connects a mother’s experiences during pregnancy with her offspring’s long-term health.

Does your significant other seem obsessed with certain behaviors that are confusing you? Are these behaviors a constant source of stress and arguments in your relationship? What are the most common types of behavioral addictions that impact your relationship? What are some warning signs of "behavioral or process addictions?" Is there a difference between substance related addictions and behavioral addictions? Do you need professional help and what is the treatment for these behavioral addictions?

By and large, women spend a lot of time studying style trends and determining which looks do and don’t work for them. They read fashion magazines, observe other women, and ask friends for image advice and feedback. Men? Not so much. In general, guys don’t put nearly as much time and energy into figuring out what works for them. And unless a style-savvy woman in their lives takes on the role of image advisor, their "look" often comes together by happenstance.

With all the hype surrounding sex and sexual relationships, there can be a tremendous feeling of pressure, especially for men. Men, in fact, appear to experience sexual performance-anxiety in far greater proportions than women. In spite of society's seeming openness to sexuality and women's sexual freedom, there is still a very traditional perspective that it's a man's duty and responsibility to always rock the sexual boat. In other words, men must have the equipment, skills and stamina to throw it down in the bedroom and when they don't, they are viewed as sexual and relationship failures.

When someone you know seems to be struggling, how should you handle it? If you’re like many people, you may hesitate to cross boundaries or get involved—especially given the stigma attached to depression and mental illness. But the worst thing you can do is say nothing.

It is incredibly important that the distressed person in your life knows there is hope. Your silence may suggest there is not. It may feel uncomfortable, but it is an act of love and friendship to ask, "Are you okay?"