Tag: motivate

Sometimes, husbands need a little motivation. Back when you were dating, he’d move the mountains and the sea for you just to get your attention. Now, he’s sitting on the sofa in his underwear not batting an eye when you ask for help taking out the trash. While you can't make your husband do anything, you can get his attention and set an example of your efforts—and put him in a good mood at the same time.

Every day you are bombarded by well-intentioned, "good" advice ranging from how to manage stress and cultivate a loving marriage to diet and exercise. Sorting it all out can be difficult, especially when it’s conflicting: Absence makes the heart grow fonder versus out of sight, out of mind. Some of this good advice is a mysterious secret which will be revealed if you buy the book and some of it comes in the form of meditation and visualization tapes which speak to you personally—you and millions of others listeners. And this is precisely the problem: One size does not fit all.

He wants to watch TV rather than spend time with you. She doesn’t have the same vitality and drive that first attracted you to her. He won’t help with the housework. She resists taking that fantastic vacation.

How many times have you wanted to light a fire under your spouse to get them to do the things they should do (or that you want them to do)? Do you sometimes feel like you are the one making the major effort in your marriage?

If you’re a man in a good relationship aspiring to adopt a healthy lifestyle consider yourself lucky. If you’re a partner to such a man know that you’ve got tremendous influence on their health. Experts tell us that it’s our own behavior that has the greatest impact on our health. We also know that social and personal relationships are among the strongest sources of inspiration to live healthy. They represent the endgame, the purpose that drives healthy behavior, keeping many men going when others quit. Yes, the secret sauce of healthy living is right in front of us. The key is to recognize these motivators and turn them into to day-to-day habits, routines and rituals that produce a healthy lifestyle, and that’s where partners can play a key role.