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As a couple, you want all of the romance, but none of the stress. Wine, cuddling and conversations of the future make for a night to remember. If you want to make your night at home something a little fun, demonstrating a bit of effort without forcing the night, try creating your own wine pairing party. Use this as a jumping off point for a romantic evening for two.

Set The Mood

One reason that wine and romance go together is that they both require the same balance of seriousness and fun, never being demanding nor frivolous.

Here I am at the end of the third quarter of newlywed life. Oh, who would have thought that marriage could bring such change? When "two become one," it seems that change is truly the name of the game. I giggle (at least now) at all the adjustments I have made in the first nine months of my marriage!

What compromise, thought, and cooperation it takes to create a new life that feels safe and comfortable. Yet, just when I think I’ve got it all under control, another new piece of the puzzle awaits me; there is always something new to ponder and learn.

Ah, married life! It’s not a venture for the faint-hearted or uncommitted heart. It is, however, the perfect adventure for those inclined to create a work of art within the most sacred of personal relationships—marriage. Rilke famously quoted, "For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation." As both a psychologist and a newlywed, I couldn’t agree more.

As newlyweds, what’s the first thing people want to do? You guessed it, people want to give you advice… advice and more advice! As a newlywed I am assuming that most people have lots of advice for you. Well, this article is no different. So listen up! Exciting, unpredictable times lay ahead! My hope as I write this article to you is that you will remain "hitched" throughout your lifetime together.

Are we scared to love at our highest capacity? Do past hurts keep us a bit reserved in our affections for another person? Even in our family of origin, did we learn that loving someone with all our hearts and minds was actually unsafe?

How can I know, this early, that I am in the 4th LTR (long-term relationship) of my life? I know. I feel it. We express our intentions together often. And she keeps showing me in actions that she’s here for the real thing. We’re both ready for "what’s next."

Here's a piece of folk wisdom nearly every newlywed has heard: "If you can survive the wedding, surviving the marriage will be a piece of cake!" Weddings are indeed stressful because they involve a massive amount of planning, cooperating/compromising with your spouse-to-be, the convergence of diverse family and friends, decisions about religion and family traditions, and of course, lots of money.

After the wedding, many newly married couples experience what social scientists call "the honeymoon phase"—a period of several months in the beginning of marriage, characterized by passionate love and intense happiness.