Tag: nice

You’ve had it! You’re tired of your wishes always coming last. You’re fed up with bending over backwards to please your spouse when it seems you never get equal treatment in return. You declare to the heavens, "That's it, no more Mrs. Nice Gal for me! I'm not letting my spouse walk all over me anymore!" and off you go, riding roughshod over your mate’s desires, and chopping his head off whenever you’re displeased, until your mate is either cowering, fleeing or resenting the heck out of you.

We all love the sparkle and beauty of the winter holidays, yet this special season isn’t just about trimming the tree, eating sumptuous foods, and opening beautifully wrapped gifts. With romance in the air and warm fires aglow, there’s no time like the holiday season to spice things up!

The hustle and bustle of the season can be a bit tiring at times, so it’s extra important to slow down to share some precious moments with your darling. Pare down the shopping list, decline an invitation to a party or two, and heat up the house with your own holiday magic!

I used to believe that if I had a grievance, opposing opinion or legitimate complaint with someone, I had to bite my tongue to be perceived as a nice guy. On those rare occasions when I chose to speak up, I felt as though I was attacking the person. Since I’m not the attacking type, I learned to keep it to myself all locked inside. If you believe in a mind-body connection, as I firmly do, you know that bottling things up and keeping them inside can lead to stress, uneasiness and even disease.

In every marriage, you’ll occasionally have disagreements and do the wrong thing. To keep from making yourself unhealthy, and to make sure your marriage grows and flourishes, you need to practice being clear. Here are some guidelines.

You've made your New Year's resolution, "That's it, no more Mr. Nice Guy! I'm not letting my spouse and kids walk all over me anymore!"

You go, trampling hearts and chopping heads off, until everyone around you is cowering, fleeing or resenting the heck out of you.

"Well, that didn't work," you say to yourself, scratching your head. "My spouse and kids aren't walking all over me anymore, but they can't stand me either. Forget this."

The holidays are here, and we all know what that means: malls, freeways, and businesses filled with busy, stressed-out people! How can you keep your cool amidst all the chaos?

First, remember that every contact is a relationship. Whether you’re driving in holiday traffic or dashing through the mall in search of the perfect gift, you have a relationship with everyone you meet. How you choose to conduct yourself in those situations will determine the amount of personal balance you’ll have in your life; and your level of balance determines the quality of your most important relationships.