Tag: practice

If you’ve been in any type of unhealthy relationship and successfully gotten out, at some point in your recovery, you are likely to experience feelings of reticence, caution, cynicism and even paranoia about others. This is particularly the case in regard to romantic partners. Once you’ve been burned, it’s not so easy to risk getting close to fire again, right?

Since it’s pretty unrealistic (although sometimes quite appealing) to live your life in solitary confinement, it’s vital to know how to work through some of these feelings of extreme mistrust.

The next time you are tempted to say, "I’m out of options." "I’m defeated." "There is nothing left that I can do,” step outside on a clear, starry night. Look up and recall that at one point in time humans believed all that existed was that which we could see with our own eyes. The earth, the sun, the moon, and a sea of stars.

Through the power of visualization, you'll quickly understand that not only do you have many more options and possibilities ahead, but like the astronomers of past, you will begin to understand the breadth of possibilities beyond your vision and imagination. Try this technique.

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” ~ Buddha

The truth is that the most challenging and significant relationship in any and every life is the one you have with yourself. It is the foundation for all the other relationships that your life holds and, in fact, dictates both your capacity to love and be loved by everyone else. Seeing through this lens, it is clear that the circumstances and relationships on the outside are a mirror of the peace or turmoil that is present within my relationship with myself.

The September Squeeze: As I write those words, I feel my throat tightening, my heart thumping and my brow glistening with sweat. It’s like a little three-piece combo that plays the hot nightclub inside me: "Come down and see us, we’re here the entire month of September!"

And here’s why the squeeze happens. First of all, we just had summer. Even if we were carting kids to and from camp, there is still an ease in summer that just cannot be taken for granted.