Tag: put down

Snarky comments… you know, those snide or critical remarks that your spouse may say that hurt, put you on the defensive, and spoil your day? Exerted by one over the other, put-downs are a form of control and power, and carry the potential to do major damage to the marriage. However, the sooner this condescending behavior is addressed, the better likelihood that harmony can be restored to the marriage.

It all starts with understanding why your partner does it, which takes some investigation. Then, with a well-instituted game plan that both partners work at and commit to, the put-downs have the potential to be eradicated from the relationship!

If you and your spouse spend any time socializing with other couples, chances are you’ve encountered them: the couple that seems to thrive on having an audience to air their frustrations and dirty laundry. They punctuate each other's sentences with sarcasm and snide remarks. They undercut each other in casual conversation. They bring up embarrassing stories that put each other in an unflattering light.

Just because there are no bruises, doesn’t mean there is no abuse. Picture this. You and three friends are having lunch. The conversation is lively. The topic: ridiculous things your husbands do… such as… Talks to himself in the shower. Has a pair of "lucky" underwear. Prefers plastic cutlery at home. Is addicted to "Southern Charm: Charleston." Everyone is laughing.

You would never know that one of you is in an abusive marriage.