Tag: reconnect

If your spouse was a victim of childhood or teen sexual abuse, she may be unknowingly bringing some of the aftereffects of her abuse into the marriage bed. It can be confusing and frustrating for both of you, blaming yourselves or each other for a lack of connection and intimacy you can’t explain. However, there are ways in which you can support her in feeling safe and loved so that she can open up to deeper and richer experiences of sexual intimacy.

“I can’t wait to see you tonight."

"Oh, I can’t get enough of you!"

"I just want to kiss your face and touch your body!"

Have phrases like this gone by the wayside? Do you wonder what happened to your spouse’s interest in sex? Is there an absence of desire and passion? Do you want to fall for your sweetheart all over again? You can make it happen! Even if the well of sexual intimacy has gone all but dry in your marriage, it is truly possible to get things flowing again. Armed with a bucket of insightful tools, you’ll be on your way to restoring sexual intimacy in your marriage—the most important relationship in your life.

How many times have you been with your spouse and realized you have both spent the last 30 minutes staring at your phones or tablets? It’s a hard habit to break and now that our technology is so portable it can feel like an inescapable problem.

We are all guilty of giving our technology way more attention than our partners at one time or another. It is time to break the habit! We want you to unplug yourselves from the world and tune in to each other for an intimate evening together.

One of the biggest pressures both men and women place on themselves in a relationship is when it comes to sex. Their minds are running rampant with all kinds of negative thoughts: What if I’m a terrible lover? What if it doesn’t feel good? What if I don’t last?

For other couples, perhaps sex was once something amazing, but overtime the excitement faded.

Whether you’re in a new relationship or have been married for years the sex can be great. If things aren’t going quite as well as you’d like in the bedroom, try these tips:

Sometimes, we all need the occasional night to ourselves. Some of you may be thinking, "A night to myself, what is that?"

We often have those nights where we are home zoning out watching TV, eating and feeling bored. We don’t need more of those nights. This is not the kind of night I am referring to.

Some of you may say, "A night to myself, that isn’t going to be fun. If I go out alone people will think I am weird or will assume I am unlovable and lonely."

I wonder what would happen if one day you said, "Enough! It’s time for me! I am going to take time out to go in. I am going to make time to find and reconnect with myself and with what really matters!"

What would happen if—when the "nay saying voice of reason" came in and filled your head with all the justifiable reasons that you cannot possibly take the time, spend the money, or leave your family obligations for 3-4 days to retreat from the world and to reconnect with you—you consciously overrode that seeming logic and took the "Illogical leap of faith" to invest in yourself, in your spirit, in listening for life’s deepest meaning and purpose?

The following is an excerpt from "HappiNest: Finding Fulfillment After Your Kids Leave Home"

After the marathon of child-rearing, it’s time to turn toward your spouse and nurture the bond you share. If the marriage is solid after all these years, you can focus on the two of you. You can look forward to navigating this transition with novelty, fun, and a sense of adventure.