Tag: reflect

As I was having my coffee one morning, with the fire blazing and Celine Dion playing in the background, I took a big sigh, a big breath, and thought to myself… "I need more moments like this."

Then I thought that if more of us, including myself, paid closer attention to those particular moments in our lives, we might hear the quiet message that those moments bring.

What did I conclude from what I felt on that morning? I needed to slow down and take more time for myself.

It is not always possible to pause with yourself before engaging in conflict with your partner. However, if you can create the pause, it will serve you greatly to do your own inner work before entering into the dialogue with your partner. Often when we just jump into the fight, we hope for something that we don’t get. This is usually because when fighting happens without forethought, either one (or both) people are triggered into their primal brains.