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A long-term relationship or marriage is a blessing, but what do you do when the doldrums set in? How can you see your spouse with fresh eyes? Appreciating everything you have together and awakening what may have gone dormant?

Here are seven ways to revitalize your marriage starting today!

1. Celebrate what's working. Research has shown that couples who focus on the negatives in their relationship—feel more negative! What a surprise.

Poor sleep not only makes us grumpy, hungry and lethargic, it can be deadly. A study by researchers in Australia showed that being awake for 18 hours produced an impairment equal to a blood alcohol concentration of .05, and .10 after 24 hours. In most states, .08 is considered legally drunk. Consider that roughly 86% of Americans commute by automobile to and from work, according to 2013 U.S. Census Data, and you realize that's a lot of people on the road potentially impaired from poor sleep.

If you live a life of arguments, fighting, and conflicts in your family and at work, you are killing yourself. Danish researchers have found that people who frequently fight and argue with partners, relatives, friends or neighbors are 2 to 3 times more likely to die than those who do not—the study found that nearly half the deaths were from cancer, and the rest were due to heart disease, accidents, suicide and liver disease from alcohol abuse.

The researchers found that stresses related to excess demands, conflicts, and arguing were linked to a 50 percent to 100 percent increased risk of death from any cause. Among all these stresses, arguing was the most harmful.

Research on alcohol-use disorders consistently shows problem drinking decreases as we age. Also called, "maturing out," these changes generally begin during young adulthood and are partially caused by the roles we take on as we become adults. Now, researchers collaborating between the University of Missouri and Arizona State University have found evidence that marriage can cause dramatic drinking reductions even among people with severe drinking problems. Scientists believe findings could help improve clinical efforts to help these people, inform public health policy changes and lead to more targeted interventions for young adult problem drinkers.

Two year ago during his acceptance speech for Best Picture at the Oscars, Ben Affleck thanked his wife, Jennifer Garner, and commented on their then eight year marriage, "It’s good, it is work, but it’s the best kind of work, and there’s no one I’d rather work with."

Two years later, a day after their 10th anniversary, they have decided to get divorced. While this decision was made "after much thought and careful consideration," according to the couple, the media can only speculate as to the cause of their relationship’s demise.

Are there any sex positions that can help me be more aroused during intercourse?

There is a great position called the Coital Alignment Technique (CAT). It provides a woman with both internal and external stimulation, as well as stimulates the man’s prostatic nerves.

The CAT is a basic modification of the missionary position that involves the man riding up on a woman’s pelvis so they can rock and rub her externally against his pelvic bone.

What determines the chemistry between you and your spouse? Who has not said, "They have good chemistry together?" We hear it so often that it seems trite. Typically, we direct that remark towards a couple that looks mismatched to our judgment. We ask ourselves, "What do they see in each other?" Our usual answer is that their chemistry is just right. This is often our only way of reconciling the force of attraction between these two.

However, what if the concept of chemical attraction has a direct biological basis? New research is revealing that it does and many of those reasons had not been previously expected or explored.