Tag: rituals

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. That means you’ll most likely be saying, "I love you" to your sweetie with flowers, chocolates, a romantic dinner, or perhaps (depending on your budget) something even grander like a diamond necklace or a tropical cruise. These tokens of your love are a nice gesture and will surely be appreciated. But in terms of creating togetherness, these "special occasion" gifts pale in comparison to the little moments repeated over and over all year long.

Why is it that we all want to be in a relationship? Because when you strip it down, being part of a pair helps you know that you matter to someone else. Face it, there are millions of people in this world and having a partner lets you know that someone cares about you and that you’re accepted.

This desire for feeling connected all starts right from the beginning when you are born and in your childhood—there’s a need for attachment to a caring figure. When couples come in for help, the biggest problem I see is a sense of disconnection and feeling that he or she does not matter to his or her partner.