Tag: self love

There is much we can learn from relationships. All relationships are experiences, and these experiences are our teachers. How we navigate through these experiences and what we choose to see with our internal lens that can only be described as pure consciousness can determine your readiness and openness for positive transformation in your life.

Three Key Things to Know:

Today we live in a very volatile world with the pandemic, war, economic uncertainty, social unrest, polarization of ideologies, lack of tolerance, climate change, amidst a looming fear of resurgence of COVID. Keeping these situations in mind, it is as important to develop a steely resolve in building resilience along with positivity and keep hoping for a better future.

Listed here are the five hallmarks of Resilience that can go a long way in helping one build a self-motivated and strong life.

We’re all longing for happiness. We think we can achieve it by losing 10 pounds or kicking a bad habit or making more money, and that’s why we vow to do those things year after year after year.

However, I’ve found that true happiness isn’t about those kinds of achievements. Instead, it comes down to learning to love yourself, and there are some very specific things you can start to do now to move in that direction.

As citizens of the most affluent society that’s ever existed, you’d think Americans would be happy—yet too many of us are anything but. We’re stressed and overworked. Unhealthy. Self-destructive. We’re disconnected from those we (presumably) love. We consume and consume—buying up not just food, but expensive homes, cars, vacations, high-tech "toys"—yet nothing fills the hole. If you’re skeptical, let the numbers speak for themselves:

Why do we get married? If we had to answer this question off-hand, many of us would perhaps say the expected; because of love. Honest reflection on the truth about why we marry may, however, yield slightly different answers. Understanding why we chose marriage is a critical part of how we live out our marriage-satisfaction. Many of us are plagued with perpetual unhappiness and discontent, simply because our marriage reality does not match our expectations.

Marriage is our greatest teacher of what love is and what love is not. When we learn what love is not it gives us a better idea of what to look for in an effort to find what love is. For something so simple, love—or the idea of love—can often bring us more confusion than clarity. Simply, love should feel good and sometimes love feels bad.

What Love Is

1. Love is open. Love should not be used to dictate to another person what the rules on their behavior should be.

When was the last time you were at a gathering and someone said how relieved they were that their partner wanted less sex? These days you’re more likely to hear triumphant murmurs about someone having their vagina resuscitated, lubricated or lasered; or libidinous tales of 4-hour erections and stories about dating a 20-something tantra-teacher. In the face of this, who wants to admit they want less sex?