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Sex and relationship expert, Dr. Trina Read, is ready to answer your questions.

For me, the best part of sex is afterwards when we get to cuddle, but my husband always falls asleep immediately. It really bugs me. What to do?

I agree there are three parts to sex: foreplay, sexual play and after play. All are equally fun and are needed to make a complete sexual experience.

The second you hang your shingle as a sexuality resource, the questions start coming. Just ask anybody who sells sex toys, makes condoms or lubricants, writes a sex blog or book, offers sex therapy, hosts a radio show on relationships… and they’ll tell you the questions won’t quit. In my 15+ years of experience as a sexuality educator, I’ve fielded a ton of questions from passengers on planes and trains, websites I’m an affiliated with, publications I write for, and students during class and office hours.

Positive sexual anticipation is one of the most powerful aphrodisiacs you will ever come across. Negative sexual anticipation is also as powerful and will zap any sexual spark in a nanosecond.

So it goes without saying that this seemingly insignificant thing called sexual desire can make or break good sex. In fact, the number one reason long-term couples in North America stop having sex is a lack of sexual desire.