Tag: sexual pleasure

"More important than the quest for certainty is the quest for clarity." ~ Francois Gautier

While we all want pleasure, most of us don’t understand why our pleasure response gets blocked or even how to ignite it. So here are four steps to turn on your libido, enlarge your experience of sex and trust the intelligence of your heart.

"When a man gives up his freedom to get married, and forsake all others, he reasonably expects to get a ‘little thing’ on a regular basis." ~ Richard Hoad.

The obvious premise of the above quote is that men need "a little thing" or in other words sex, with the underlying implication that women are not always prepared to give it. The problem with this equation is that there is a built-in expectation of exchange. Men are purportedly giving up their "freedom," which means surrendering a "right" to sexual variety, in exchange for regular sex with one woman. Women, however, seldom define marriage in these exact terms. Sure, we know regular sex is involved in a committed relationship, but very often we want more.

When you're struggling with feelings of body dysmorphia, it can be hard to think of your body as a source of sexual pleasure.

Your partner is probably still tempted to think of it that way. Even when your sexuality and your ability to express it is deeply important to you, feeling bad about your body or uncomfortable with how you see yourself in the mirror can make it harder to enjoy that sexual expression.

When our friends at Dame recently appeared on “Megyn Kelly TODAY” to talk about the pleasure gap, we knew the term had officially gone mainstream—and for good reason. The statistics on how often women reach orgasm compared to men are striking, especially in heterosexual relationships.

There is no time like long summer nights to cultivate our uniquely, profoundly human capacity for pleasure; especially sexual pleasure. Our pleasure response transforms our relationship to each other and even to life itself. Focusing on pleasure not only changes how we see our opportunities for intimate connection, but also invites us into a deeper relationship with our erotic soul.