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Communication. It’s one of those words that cannot be ignored when talking about how to create and nurture a good relationship, and certainly a nonnegotiable in a marriage. But when health issues, ranging from a headache to a chronic illness, come into play—communication becomes that much harder, and that much more important.

I get it: it’s boring to talk about communication. It’s certainly not a novel idea and for the most part it seems simple. Listen. Don’t yell. Don’t point fingers, and so on. What makes marriage different from dating though, is that marriage is the ultimate partnership.

Anyone who has been given a cancer diagnosis makes an immediate recalibration of every previously held ambition. Friends and loved ones often don't understand how priorities held for a lifetime can change overnight when someone learns he or she has cancer. Reactions to a cancer diagnosis, regardless of the prognosis, will vary according to personality, but each person will experience an onslaught of fear, worry and uncertainty.

Every year, we see more couples choosing not to marry. Many choose to cohabitate. Many do not want even that level of commitment. The Atlantic, recently reported that these couples are not afraid of marriage per se, but instead are afraid they will be unable to stay married. In other words, what they fear is divorce; which is understandable considering the emotional and financial ramifications of dissolving a marriage.

Certainly there are cases to be made for marriage. Aside from the romantic and social expectations associated with marriage, it is generally accepted among a wide spectrum of research that marriage has significant health benefits.

You are not a moaner or a groaner, no way, not you.

You pride yourself on being compassionate, understanding of other people's difficulties, and tolerate life's various frustrations well. So it's totally in character for you to pretty much ignore your spouse's annoying behaviors, occasional pettiness and habitual criticalness.

So when you get that sinus infection that just won’t go away, or that painful ulcer, the doctor asks you, "Any unusual stressful situations in your life?"

You love your spouse more than life itself and it is upsetting to see them sick on a normal day, let alone if they have contracted the novel coronavirus strand.

As more information about coronavirus comes to light, it's only natural to feel anxious about the future, but anxiety won't help your situation. In fact, putting unnecessary stress on yourself is bad for both your physical and mental health.

For most couples that have relatives or parents who live to be in their 70s, 80s and 90s, there comes a time when you or your spouse, or both, have to assist them with their daily tasks. To avoid unnecessary strain on your marriage and the relationship with other family member, it's best to be prepared. There are several ways of going about this, but here are what I consider some musts:

1. Choose a person in the family who is willing and able to personally care for the aging relative: Make certain this person has time to commit and is also available 24/7 to act as the point person. Very often, several family members tend to get involved.

A Health Savings Account is supposed to stay with you for life, but if you do not use it, you could lose actually lose it.

HSAs are intended to make medical expenses more affordable by allowing consumers with high-deductible health plans to set aside pretax money in an account that, unlike a Flexible Spending Account, will not expire at the end of the year.

You can keep these accounts as you change jobs, which allows you to build up funds that you can spend as you need to or save for retirement.