Tag: surprise

The most frustrating experience in life is having exactly what you want and still not being able to enjoy it. This is what many couples go through when their sex life reaches a stumbling block. When the red hot magnetic pull that used to make it hard to get through a day at work, or even a full meal, turns into a lukewarm option that could just as easily be replaced with Gilligan’s Island reruns, it can be very disconcerting. You may ask yourself why you feel this way. You may have many worries: does this mean that you’re getting too old? Are you out of touch for the passion that you once felt?

There are surprises you can spring on your spouse, but "Honey I want a divorce" is not the kind of surprise anyone wants. Marie and Hunter had been married for 12 years. They had two boys, ages 7 and 10, who seemed relatively comfortable with their lives. They had good friends and families who were close. Their marriage didn’t seem too different from those of their friends. Marie tended to the children and had a part time job.

Although they struggled financially at the outset, they were finally comfortable; Hunter’s skills in computer science had paid off nicely.

Let's face it, after six months, six years or 25 years, most couples move away from an exciting intimate relationship, to one of boredom. Inadequacy. Frustration.

For 28 years, I’ve helped thousands of couples to brighten up their intimate life, that brings more joy into every part of their existence. Below are four top keys to help you add that spice and excitement back into your sex life that may have been missing for many months at the least, and many years at the worst.

The following is a round-up of news items compiled by the Hitched editors during the week of August 14, 2014.

Dying From A Broken Heart Might Be Real
Last month, Don and Maxine Simpson, a couple from Bakersfield, CA, who had been married for 62 years passed away just four hours apart, according to their hometown paper The Bakersfield Californian. Maxine had been battling bladder cancer, and on July 14 Don broke his hip and entered the hospital after contracting pneumonia. On July 19th, Don had his bed moved next to Maxine's so the couple could be next to each other. On July 21, Maxine passed away at roughly 7 a.m. and just four hours later Don passed. While the local paper doesn't mention the cause of Don's death, it might have been from a broken heart.

Why do I always get the same reactions from my spouse?

For some wonderful and maddening reason, nature has decided that women and men excel in having different attitudes when perceiving the world; women, in general, are better at listening (auditory skills), while men are better at seeing (visual skills). These differences, no doubt, contribute to the survival of the species, but can lead to predictable frustrations with your spouse unless you are willing to learn how to surprise him or her.