Tag: technology

Have you wondered why some couples seem to be so happy and can’t get enough of each other while others seem to constantly struggle and go from one bad relationship to the next or just stay single and alone indefinitely?

As relationship experts helping thousands all over the world for over 20 years combined we’ve found a three powerful common denominators between happy successful relationships and lonely, frustrated and miserable relationships. Let’s begin!

"We do not learn by experience, but by our capacity for experience." ~ The Buddha

I have been warning against the massive shift of our attention to social media for years now. I wasn’t surprised when a bunch of studies recently came out confirming my worst fears-–that social media is not really social and that the more that we do it, the worse we feel about ourselves. But new evidence suggests that the influence social media is inflicting on our youth may just be destroying it. Coined the I-Generation, the statistics are both dangerously overwhelming and unparalleled in any previous generation. Not only are the rates of depression and suicide multiplying, but the actual capacity to be with other human beings, to share space is at its lowest ebb. Maybe this is how the hunger games started.

How many times have you been with your spouse and realized you have both spent the last 30 minutes staring at your phones or tablets? It’s a hard habit to break and now that our technology is so portable it can feel like an inescapable problem.

We are all guilty of giving our technology way more attention than our partners at one time or another. It is time to break the habit! We want you to unplug yourselves from the world and tune in to each other for an intimate evening together.

After working with thousands of singles over the years, having seen so many dating trends come and go, each time I think, "now I have seen everything!" However, today's boom of free dating apps adds a new layer of complexity, secrecy and unpredictability. These technology-affiliated dating tactics serve up easy access to unscreened, unverified daters looking for "love" at the swipe of a screen—yes, that means some daters may already be married.

Parents searching for elusive work-life balance may see smartphones and tablets as a way to escape the office in time to be home for dinner each night, but these gadgets can also be a huge distraction and source of stress, a recent study suggests.

When researchers asked a group of parents to slow down and answer detailed questions about how and when they use mobile technology, people revealed a lot of internal conflict about how the devices are changing their lives.

"Every time a new technology is introduced, it disrupts things a little, so in many ways this is no different from the anxieties that families and our culture felt with the introduction of the TV or telephone," said lead study author Dr. Jenny Radesky, a pediatrics researcher at the University of Michigan’s C.S. Mott Children’s Hospital in Ann Arbor.

Technology can be a beautiful thing. From cell phones that allow us to stay in constant contact with loved ones to laptops that let us take work and play wherever we go, the perks of living in the digital era are tremendous. On many fronts, technology makes life easier and less demanding. Yet, technology can also make life more complicated and stressful. The key, as with many elements of life, is to create the right relationship—a thoughtful balance. Technology isn’t inherently good or bad; it’s the wise use of technology that makes all the difference.

The countdown to Christmas has started. Santa’s elves need help, so you may have asked your children to create a holiday wish list, and if your kids are like mine, there’s at least one technology gadget on their list this year. My 8-year-old wants a new iPod, my 12-year-old a new Xbox and my 13-year-old wants an iPhone 5.

Whatever the gadget is, if it connects to the internet, there are five things you need to do before giving it to your child.