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You can't think your way to a healthier, happier and sexier marriage… You've actually got to do something on a daily basis to turn this beautiful union around.

In fact, millions of couples in the United States alone are in unhappy marriages. And the number one tactic that we use to stay in this unhappy state, is pointing the finger at our spouse.

It was 1998, and I waited nervously in my doctor’s waiting room. The blood tests were in, and I was convinced something was wrong with me. I thought I had cancer, a thyroid imbalance, or my ovaries weren’t releasing the proper hormones. I needed a medical reason to explain why I didn’t want to have sex with my husband. After all, I was only 25 and married for just one year.

The doctor came in and gave me the news:

"Lindsey, there is nothing wrong with you. You are perfectly healthy."

These days, it seems most parents shy away from their main role, which is… well, to parent. It is invaluable to the child to know that you are in control, you are the leader, and you set the boundaries. Of course, there is a fine line and this does not have to come with corporal punishment or any of the other fear-based tactics used in history, but it does mean you need to step into your authority.

There are four main roles or positions that can sneak up on us if we are not careful, that we can put or allow our children to take on.

If you and your spouse are experiencing problems, you may decide your marriage would benefit from seeing a couple counselor. But if you haven’t participated in couple therapy before, you may have no idea what you’re getting yourself into. Here, we answer four common questions couples have:

1. How long will it last? Couple therapy is usually 50 minutes per session, and people typically go once a week. The number of sessions you attend will vary depending on the level of distress you’re in and the model of therapy a therapist employs.

When the health of your relationship is at stake, you want the right therapist. That means one who is qualified to help you address the issues you are facing and one with whom you and your partner feel comfortable. That means doing more than just Googling "marriage counselor" on the internet and picking the first name that pops up. There are all sorts of therapists, counselors, and coaches out there willing to work on relationship issues, but important differences do exist—and you need to pay attention to them.

If you’re like many, you may be hesitant about taking your marital woes to a counselor. This is incredibly common and the reasons people cite for avoiding counseling span from not wanting to air their "dirty laundry" to suspicion of the process itself. Unfortunately, couples often present to marriage counseling long after the initial strain and tension building shows itself in the relationship. If too much resentment and toxicity builds in the marriage, it can be a long climb back out of the abyss. But it doesn’t have to be this way.

Let's face it, after six months, six years or 25 years, most couples move away from an exciting intimate relationship, to one of boredom. Inadequacy. Frustration.

For 28 years, I’ve helped thousands of couples to brighten up their intimate life, that brings more joy into every part of their existence. Below are four top keys to help you add that spice and excitement back into your sex life that may have been missing for many months at the least, and many years at the worst.