Tag: therapists

There is no way professional therapists can have all the answers for every problem that shows up in their office. Almost daily I see couples whose challenges are too difficult for me to solve quickly or easily. So I have honed my ability to ask better questions when people are stuck. Ultimately, I have found that asking better and better questions is far more productive than giving bumper sticker solutions to complex problems.

I used this approach on myself with remarkable results. When couples came in with particularly complex problems, I stopped asking myself how to help them solve the problems. Instead, I began looking at how I could help them stop "triggering" each other.