Tag: threaten

He wants to watch TV rather than spend time with you. She doesn’t have the same vitality and drive that first attracted you to her. He won’t help with the housework. She resists taking that fantastic vacation.

How many times have you wanted to light a fire under your spouse to get them to do the things they should do (or that you want them to do)? Do you sometimes feel like you are the one making the major effort in your marriage?

Has a well-planned romantic dinner for two ever turned into a bad date night and an argument because your husband (or wife) seems to always find something to complain about at the restaurant? Consider giving him the benefit of the doubt that his fish really is too "fishy" or her steak is too salty, but also give your spouse a quick tutorial on how to complaining with grace.

1. If you must complain, do it with conviction. Don't start off your complaint with "Maybe it's just me, but…" or "It might be my imagination…" or "I am sorry I have to tell you this…" Simply call the server over and state the problem. "My chicken is not completely cooked, would you please ask the chef to take care of it? Thank you so much (with a big smile) is a better solution than an apology before your request.