Tag: unhappy

Gallup research shows that 70% of employees in America are unhappy. Thus, I paid attention one recent morning when my husband was in a good mood as he prepared to go to work. I asked what was up (since 7 out of 10 people aren’t happy at work in the U.S.). He said he had just listened to Faith Hill’s song The Secret of Life. He proudly repeated a few lines of the song and then announced, "There is no secret." I said, "Oh, but there is hombre. And there is more than one." In fact, there are 5 secrets to a happy life. Using them can make work and life less frustrating and stressful:

It is night. The princess flees the dragon—running, running into the woods. The handsome young prince charges up on his valiant steed, grabs the fearful dragon by the throat, and shows the princess it was only a paper dragon, nothing to be feared at all. The princess sighs with relief. The prince looks soulfully into the princess's eyes:

Prince: "I will take you wherever you want to go, beautiful one, you have but to say where."
Princess: "Where?"
Prince: "Yes, tell me where you want to go."
Princess: "I don't know where."

Financial pressures are without doubt one of the biggest causes of conflict in a marriage. Many couples cite money problems as the single biggest cause of arguments, conflict and unhappiness in their relationship. Learning to separate out your financial challenges from your relationship is one of the best things you can do for your marriage. Here are some ways to do that.

First, assume joint responsibility for your financial situation. Many times one person can feel resentful towards the other if they feel they are bearing most (if not all) of the financial burden. Perhaps one feels they are trying to control the finances while the other doesn't want to know about it or continues to spend freely.

January signals a fresh start, at least the noble intention of transformation. This kind of change consists of either sweeping resolutions or small-step evolutions for personal goals. However, what if the person you live with does not entertain even the slightest thought about change, let alone a glorious transformation? Many women who read self-help books have absorbed the notion that, "If I change my own dynamics, everyone around me will change." So, in the real world does this strategy work with your husband?

It’s the holiday season! A very special time of year to feel closely connected to the people we love and a time to be grateful for all the good things in our lives.

But…

* What if your husband or wife has had an affair?

* What if your spouse has been taking you for granted?

An unhappy marriage predisposes women to metabolic syndrome, a combination of medical disorders that increase the risk of developing obesity, diabetes, heart disease and stroke, according to a study by University of Utah psychologists. Apparently, when women are stressed, they are prone to an increase in blood pressure, an unhealthy lipid panel, insulin resistance and fat distributed around the middle. Yes, your husband could be making you fat! Who knew?

Purposeless arguing, red-hot anger and simmering resentment in marital life cause women to feel stressed, which leads to depression. Since women feel stress more intensely than men, they are more likely to fall into a negative loop.