Tag: bedtime

Did you know that the time before bed is notorious for piquing people’s anxiety? That’s when you think about things you should have said during the day, when you start wondering about logistics, a big presentation for tomorrow, or if your kid is coming down with the flu.

Therapists know it’s a notorious time for anxiety. Plus, if you’re sleeping with your smartphone, or watching media at the end of the night, let’s hope there are lots of positive images or else all that negativity stresses your conscious and subconscious and can sent you straight to nightmares (literally).

Goodbye rituals, like a goodnight kiss or saying goodbye before leaving for work, promote reliability, love, and closeness. How (and whether) you do a goodbye ritual is also a litmus test for your relationship. It measures the temperature and longevity of a relationship because it’s the glue and bridge to sex, passion, and conflict that will now bring you closer as a couple.

These rituals provide the partner a way to be seen, to ensure they are not invisible, and make it feel like you get him or her.

As parents and grandparents, we all understand the importance of bedtime. Many of us have a Sophie or an Ethan who tries to postpone bedtime for as long as possible. Bedtime becomes a nightly battle. Even if Sophie goes to bed, she does not stay in bed. Sophie has all sorts of reasons for not staying in bed—worries, unable to sleep, thirsty, needs to go to the bathroom, etc. The end result of this situation is a grumpy child and grumpy parents. We all deserve a peaceful bedtime.

There are many different types of bedtime hassles you and your spouse may experience when trying to get your kids to bed. Many parents have children who go to bed, but have problems falling asleep and staying in bed, for example. To correct these bedtime issues, you and/or your spouse’s response must address and resolve the core issue causing the misbehavior. If all you do is try to stop the behavior without resolving the core issue, you won’t get the results you desire.