Tag: bored

Dear Mr. Dad: Help! I’m a new mom and I’m bored out of my mind. Everyone says how much fun it is to have a baby but sometimes I can’t think of anything to do with her. Do you have any suggestions?

Although simple things like pots and pans or trips to the grocery store have lost some of their charm for you, keep in mind that just about everything in the world is new to your child. This means there is literally no limit to the number of fun—and educational—things you can do with your baby.

It’s one of the main reasons older couples get divorced yet it’s not on the radar or thought about at all when we first marry—growing apart.

Makes sense. When we are madly in love and constantly engaging in new experiences as a couple, we cannot imagine growing apart. On top of that, when our lives get hectic, complicated and busier than they should be, we are too caught up in the non-stop to realize how much we might be growing apart. Until we are living separate lives under the same roof. Yikes.

It was the happiest day of your life. You publicly proclaimed your vows to your love in front of friends and family and promised to honor them 'til death do you part. But along the way something happened; over the years you drifted apart, became interested in different things and that once solid relationship started crumbling to the ground.  Is it possible to save your marriage?

Treating your sweetie to a pampering massage is a wonderful way to show love and appreciation. Experts also agree that massage between partners fosters deep intimacy, builds trust and helps couples connect emotionally. It can be as nurturing or as sensual as you want to make it.

But the biggest problem with massage is that if you don’t know how to do it, you don’t last longer than five minutes. Your thumbs hurt, your hands hurt, you don’t know if you’re doing it right, you get bored.

Disengagement from life breeds boredom. The antidote? A couple needs to engage in life in order to avoid boredom with each other, by doing the following:

1. Stay interested in life and in your own personal growth. Read books, meet new people, get involved in a group. Don't ever think you're too old to keep learning and growing.  As long as you're on this planet there is room for growth.

2. Remember the purpose of your life. What are your gifts and how can you best use them?  Look into different spiritual practices so you can explore the meaning of life and your life in particular.

Over the years, friends of mine who know I sell expensive homes to people of wealth and those without, have remarked, "I can’t understand Americans. They never spend time in their homes. They are always working or on the freeway heading to something."

Like it or not, people around the world have been forced to stay home these days, thus giving them no choice but to finally chill out, relax and explore the features of their homes, most of which they pay for but rarely fully use. I, for example, for the first time, have played with my home theatre and surround sound features and started to appreciate my newly learned experience. Also, for the first time, I learned what it means to "putter in your garage." It’s been really fun.